Lots of great responses. Shoutout, in particular, to those for whom this week's homework is tough. We tend to focus on what was lacking from our parents. But almost all of us are who we are - for better and worse - thanks to our childhood.
There's no one right way to enjoy the holidays and no one can dictate to you what you should be doing, feeling, making, buying, enjoying. Give yourself permission to celebrate on your terms. Accept those invitations. Or don't. Shop like crazy. Or don't.