For each of us, there are people in our lives that lift us up just by being around. And there are sometimes people in our lives that pull us under. And we can love those people equally. But that doesn't mean they can give them equal space in our lives.
Who is trying to keep you in the crab barrel? It would be nice if everyone around us were rooting for us to succeed. Frequently, we encounter people who are not only not supportive of our attempts to better ourselves, but they will actively undermine us.